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7 Secret Ways to Test the Strength of a Relationship

Here are 7 subtle ways to test the strength of a love relationship.

1. The Gaze Test. Research has shown that couples in love tend to spend more time gazing into each other’s eyes. Over a romantic dinner does s/he look directly into your eyes, or avoid your gaze?

2. The Jealousy Test. Does your partner show jealousy when an attractive person shows interest in you?

3. The Endurance Test. Does your partner willingly offer to help you out with some difficult or boring chore, such as helping you move, cleaning out the attic, or taking care of your pet while you are on a business trip?

4. The Separation Test. Does your partner tell you how much s/he missed you, or say, “Is it two weeks already? Seems like yesterday!”?

5. The Public Affection Test. Is your partner comfortable with holding hands or kissing in public, or does s/he pull away when someone approaches?

6. The Squeeze Test. When others are talking about romantic couples, does your partner give you a squeeze on your hand or leg, giving the nonverbal signal “that’s like us!”

7. The Mutuality Test. Does your partner share personal information, particularly after you have shared something personal or intimate? This is known as “reciprocal self-disclosure” and is the process by which strong relationships are formed. Furthermore, do you share jokes and stories and find the same things fun or amusing?

If your partner fails one of your subtle tests, it’s not the end of the world. Failing several suggests that the relationship needs attention. Developing strong love relationships is not easy. Each person must invest in the relationship and be willing to make sacrifices and concessions. Moreover, strong relationships are built by sharing and by being genuinely interested in and appreciative of your partner.

 

Source: Psychology Today

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