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Why does this woman think she is ugly?

Alanah thinks she is ugly, which could not be further from the truth. She suffers from Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD), a condition that causes people to become obsessed with perceived defects in their appearance. It’s thought about one in 50 people suffer from BDD, but many of us – and even some doctors – are unaware of its existence.

“I thought it was cruel for other people to have to see my face, that it really is disgusting,” says 20-year-old Alanah.

“I see marks all over my face, which my mum has told me that she does not see. I see my skin is just bumpy and blemished. I see my nose is way too big and crooked and sticks out too much. My eyes are too small.”

Alanah is a beautiful young woman, but when she looks in the mirror she does not see what others see.

She suffers from Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD), and when her condition was at its worst she repeatedly checked her appearance in the mirror, taking pains to disguise any flaws she thought she saw. Her make-up routine could take up to four hours, and even after this she often felt too anxious to leave the house.

“My routine at the time was four or five layers of foundation and concealer. Eye make-up always had to be done as well, very heavy eye make-up, and it would just be constant,” says Alanah. “So every little imperfection I’d have to keep touching up and keep going over and doing the same thing again and again.”

She would also pick her skin – picking at any blemish until the skin was broken and raw.

Alanah as a young girl

As a curly haired little girl she was happy to be photographed and to appear in the family photo album, but at the age of 14, things began to change, for reasons she has never quite understood.

“I didn’t notice [the signs] at the time but looking back now I know that they’re symptoms of BDD. For example, I’d be in school and I’d be very aware of my surroundings. I’d be looking around to see who was looking at me, to see who was laughing, to see who was talking,” she says.

“There were big windows in my school. I’d be looking in the windows to check the way I look. I’d go to the bathroom a lot more often, to mirror check.”

At the age of 15, she stopped going to school. Her mother, Scarlett, would drive her in, but Alanah – despite her eagerness to study – would not get out of the car. They would drive home and then get back in the car to have another try, but once again Alanah would be unable to get out. The exercise could be repeated as many as eight times per day, Scarlett says.

This led to Alanah becoming very isolated, and it was devastating for her mother to observe the change in her character.

Rankin and Alison Lapper

“For the first two or three years we just didn’t know what it was,” says Scarlett.

“From being a high-achiever, very confident, she just imploded really, couldn’t get out. I had to bath her, I had to get her drinks. She was just in bed all day long.

“It’s heartbreaking because I know every mum thinks their children are beautiful, but there is literally nothing wrong with Alanah and I think everyone can see it,” says Scarlett.

“It’s so frustrating, and actually now I know not to fight if she says she’s ugly, I just have to not keep going on about it. It’s what she sees and that’s it, and I have to leave it and try to focus on other things.

“The worse thing is that, as a mum, you’re meant to protect your children and help them and I just felt totally helpless not being able to do anything for her.”

Scarlett says her daughter would get upset if she ever displayed a photograph of her in the living room, so when friends she had not seen for a long time asked what her children looked like now, she had no images of her daughter to show them.

It took a long time for Alanah and her mother to get a diagnosis of BDD. Alanah was misdiagnosed many times as having teenage angst or social anxiety until finally her condition was correctly identified at the Maudsley Clinic in south London. Her recovery began during a five-month stay at the North London Priory and she now has regular cognitive behavioural therapy sessions.

Despite having not wanted anyone to take her photo since her early teens, Alanah courageously decided to confront her condition for a new series, No Body’s Perfect, on BBC Four. She agreed to a photo shoot with the portrait and fashion photographer, Rankin, in order to raise awareness of BDD, and to help others recognise similar symptoms in themselves.

She says getting a diagnosis of BDD is difficult because there is such little awareness of the disorder – but also because sufferers are so ashamed of their appearance that they won’t talk openly.

“So my main appearance concern is my nose, but it took me three years of therapy to even tell my family or my therapist that that’s what it was. I didn’t want to point it out,” she says.

The photo shoot was never going to be easy for Alanah as she habitually rejects all photographs of herself. On some days she used to take more than 200 selfies of herself and then delete them all.

It is not unusual for someone with BDD to assess their appearance by taking pictures of themselves, says Rob Willson, a cognitive behavioural therapist and chair of the Body Dysmorphic Disorder Foundation. But having a photograph taken by someone else can be quite threatening because it is out of the person’s control.

 

Source: BBC