“I respect you honey! it’s not by mouth but by your actions”
Actions speak louder than words. You can claim you respect your spouse but he/she will have a hard time believing that unless your behavior backs it up.
What does respectful living look like? If you will make it your habit to do these things, the next time you tell your spouse how much you respect him/her, he/she won’t have to wonder if you really mean it.
MAINTAIN AN ATTITUDE OF JOY
I remembered way back in the university, one funny incident that happened between my friend and his girlfriend. My friend complained to me that his girlfriend was indisposed so I went to check on her; she told me it was a boil deep inside her arm pit. I tried pressing the spot to feel the so claimed boil she had that made her boyfriend so restless but to my surprise; there was no single boil in her arm pit. I suddenly perceived in my spirit that she was just pretending to gain attention from her boyfriend. I bluntly told her that she’s got no boil and we all laughed over it. I never bothered my head trying to fathom why she had to put the guy through such stress.
A happy wife makes a happy life likewise a happy husband too. Please don’t use moodiness as an attempt to manipulate your spouse, but create an atmosphere of joy, peace and romance because that’s the right thing to do.
1 Thessaonians 5:16; REJOICE EVERMORE!
Philippians 4:4: REJOICE IN THE LORD ALWAYS: AND AGAIN I SAY, REJOICE!
HONOUR YOUR SPOUSE’S WISHES
Give weight to what your spouse thinks is so much important. Make those things a priority that matter most to him/her, whether it’s having dinner ready when he gets home from work or keeping the house tidy or limiting computer time. The only thing that can cause quarrel between someone related to me and his wife is just lateness in getting dinner ready. Study your spouse and do the needful.
Philippians 2:4 Look not every man on his own things; look on the things of others.
GIVE YOUR SPOUSE UNDIVIDED ATTENTION
Whenever your spouse is speaking to you, make a point to lay other tasks aside, look into each others eyes, and listen to what he/she is saying with the goal of understanding and remembering the discussion. The essence of marriage is companionship.
BE A GOOD LISTENER AND DON’T INTERRUPT
There was a time I discovered a bad attitude in me and that is interrupting people who are sharing things with me; I made a joke out of it and that’s really a help to me as I will always discipline myself to stay mute and allow other people air their views. Even if you think you already know what your spouse is going to say, allow him/her to talk without cutting him/her off mid-sentence. This shows both respect and common courtesy.
FOCUS ON YOUR SPOUSE GOOD POINTS
Years ago, I and my friends were gisting about our class rep in school. We kept talking about his bad ways and all that…I concluded the talk by pointing out the few good things I know about him; to my surprise another fellow who did not participate in the talk said: “BETTER! Aha aha at last, you have one good thing to say about him!”
Marriage is a union between two imperfect people. Of a truth your spouse might have some weaknesses likewise yourself but dwelling on them will only make both of you miserable. Too much focus on your spouse’s weaknesses will not help your marriage at all; rather choose to focus on those qualities in your spouse that you most appreciate and admire.
Philippians 4:8: Finally brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, THINK ON THESE THINGS.
Source: Pastor Bimbo Odukoya